reniimodisette • November 4, 2022

Even in a season of manifesting blessings, my mind can make me feel or believe procrastination is dedication. In the midst of moving forward, it is funny but not funny how a single thought can shift me from propelling to procrastinating. Subsequently, pondering when did my mindset misfits family, the first cousins of Nana Naysayer, drop me off at the doorstep of intimidation and thought distortion?



This week, the following statements led me to sit at the traffic light while green in Florida. Meanwhile, the occupants of the surrounding vehicles expressed gentle (not so much) gestures to put my foot on the gas:


  • “That is a whole lot of pages to read to know how to do XXX. I’ll put it aside for when I have more time.”
  • “I want to get to it, but XXX came up, so I will focus on this for right now.”
  • “I can’t start until….”


Moreover, I believe it’s a belief system holding me back, which means I must address my mindset misfits. Furthermore, I know pulling out the affirmations and standing in the mirror means nothing if I give a sliver of credibility to my mindset misfit cousins.

To be specific, my 2022 roadmap includes launching a YouTube channel. I have watched multiple videos, which were extremely helpful. As a result, I improved my camera and lighting, banner, and introduction. I’ve even written my talking points, but I’m yet to upload the video. Each day, I’ve had one reason or another for not uploading the video, like I need more content or a better introduction, but the truth- is I am a bit intimidated.


To begin with, the intimidation I feel about uploading the introduction video results from being stuck on perfection while ultimately knowing that perfection doesn’t exist. Because of this, I revert to being only as good as I prove myself to be. What does this mean?


It means it is time for shadow work. Shadow work is working with my subconscious mind to discover what parts of myself I’m hiding, ignoring, or disliking. The intent of Receive It season is to embrace the blessings on the way. With this in mind, avoiding conversations with my mindset misfit cousins creates blockages hindering my path to abundance.

I started with the following:

  1. Alternate nostril breathing to calm my mind, ignite mental quickness and constructive action
  2. I asked myself what I wanted. Do I really want a channel? 
  3. I noted all my fears and objections
  4. For the objections that required more research to increase my confidence, I blocked an allotted amount of time on my calendar to do more research
  5. For each fear, I addressed each by free writing (no punctuation or concern with grammar), then I read each aloud to acknowledge my feelings
  6. I gave fear and objection a new job
  7. Fear became research
  8. Objection became study
  9. Realigned with my goals


Although welcome, I said farewell to my mindset misfit family. Consequently, allowing me to appreciate their visit and rebuke thought distortion and procrastination.

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By Renii Modisette • October 13, 2024
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